Lay your weary head to rest: Julie Moe’s Key Spouse Story

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  • By Maj. Ashley Walker
  • 913th Airlift Group

Many Americans have etched in their memories is what they were doing when 9/11 happened. For Julie Moe, 96th Aerial Port Squadron key spouse, the pervasive memory was the stress and uncertainty of the deployment immediately following the aftermath of the terrorist attack.

“Malcom’s deployment after 9/11 happened suddenly and it was the first time in our relationship that he was gone for so long,” said Julie. “It felt as if the carpet was ripped form under our feet. For some reason, I was fixated on knowing his deployed living conditions and where he slept. Even though I knew everyone was in a dangerous situation, I needed to know where he laid his head to rest at night in order to feel a sense of comfort.”

The Air Force Key Spouse program was not established at the time. Currently, the official program is designed to enhance mission readiness through promoting partnerships between unit leadership, Key Spouses, family members, the Airman & Family Readiness Center (A&FRC) and other community and helping agencies.

“Prior to the program there were informal spouse groups that would get together to share information and relate to military unique struggles,” Julie said. “Once the key spouse program started, I knew I had to help.”

Military life can be stressful with and families play a big part in ensuring military members stay resilient. When families need resources or advice, Key Spouses often know where to turn for assistance, linking service members and families to the several available resources. 

“The program is a way for families to connect and network to find the best resources in their area,” Julie said. “My personal focus is on suicide prevention and awareness. I want the families to know we are here to help and they don’t have to suffer in silence.”

The key spouse program is known to provide connections and resources during deployments but the support is offered year-round. Julie encourages families to make connections now prior to deployments.

To get in contact with your unit’s key spouse email or read more about the program here: